On The Real: Usage of the term "Gay"

So I was just talking to some of my friends the other day and realized that the term "gay" is thrown out a lot, and I was thinking to myself, being the sociology major that I am, why do we keep using this term when a male behaves in a feminine way? I even see this a lot in the media, but they don't directly come out and say the word "gay", they'll just say something like, do we need to take this to my bedroom (male talking to male), or something like that. Are gay males suppose to be feminine? or is it because that's all people see in society, gay males behaving femininely? And whose to say what behaving femininely is, or how female should act. Do women have to act a certain way for them to be a women? Do males have to act a certain way for them to be males? People have to start realizing that "gay" people are just like straight people, and yes, some may be more feminine than others, but straight people are split up like that as well. So the main point that I'm trying to get at is that you should start watching the terms that you use, and analyze them. Try to see why you use certain terms for different situations and how society uses these terms, because a lot of these terms creates inequality for many groups of people. And for all the "gay" folks in the world, don't be ashamed of you are, love yourself and be proud of who you are, because if you don't love yourself and be proud, it just shows the "haters" that there is something wrong with you being gay because even you don't accept yourself.